My body pump class recently changed soundtracks, and one of the new songs is My First Kiss. Music and moving around always gets me thinking (well, I’m always thinking anyway), and I got to thinking about how since most of my life I’ve always been such an outsider, I never really experience the usual ‘normal’ things in life. It always seems like, on tv, movies, books, and even other people in real life, everyone always has these cutsey first kiss childhood sweetheart kind of things. Followed later by teenaged rights of passage type stories where they lose their virginity, usually again with someone they care about (or the town slut lol). I started out pretty normal…I had my first short term crush in first grade. I dreamed this boy … Read entire article »

There was a recent study, using twin males, that shows genes influence who you are friends with. Not because you look at a person and say hey they look like they have great genes! Nope, genes predispose you to the TYPE of person you’re going to be friends with. Of course, this is only for males, but they seem to believe it would be true for females too. I hang out with more guys, so it must be true for me if it’s true for them. it’s always made sense that if you look at a person’s friends, you can tell a lot about them. this is a good reason to introduce your date to your friends, and vice versa. If you don’t like your date’s friends or … Read entire article »

In no particular order: -You have the whole bed to yourself-No one steals the covers-your lips are not as chapped-you get less colds or stds-you will never get accidentally pregnant-you get plenty of sleep-you dont have to cuddle or snuggle-no worries about it turning into a relationship, so no having to go do gooshy couples things-you save money on birth control-sex can take a lot of effort and energy, so celibacy is good for lazy people-no walk of shame-yes and i cant stress this enough and again, plenty of sleep-no worrying about forgetting to call i’m sure there are a lot more benefits, but these are off the top of my head. with all these great reasons to NOT have sex, it almost makes you wonder why anyone DOES. almost. lol … Read entire article »

To all people who know me, are friends with me, want to know me, be friends with me, or deal with me in any way…. The number one important thing to remember is to always be upfront and honest with me. Pretend you have an issue with me, or something I did. This issue could be something that actually happened, or something you think happened. It could be something totally innate to my being. What should you do: 1) never do or say anything about it, just think about it and let it fester 2) tell other people how annoyed this thing is, tell them how much it bothers you 3) talk to me.I should think that the pretty obvious, blatant answer would be number THREE. A … Read entire article »

I realized I never posted the final installment of the dating game series for you. This was written at the very end of December. of course, the epilogue to this was the break up blog, where i end up breaking up with this poor guy. Here you go: Expensive yummy dinner in a beatiful restaurant, fake ceramic tree because i didnt have a real one, slippers, a scarf, and a $60 H&M gift certificate, with the caveat i have to take him with me when i use it. Homemade cards to go with everything with pictures of places we’ve been. Presents for my friends. This is a taste of my should have been wonderful xmas dinner with j. Only, why did i feel so … Read entire article »

Here is part 3, written at the beginning of December. I like this guy as a person and was really touched at how nice he is and how much he cared about me… But at the same time i knew i wouldnt be good for him and couldnt care about him that way back… I’ve been dating the last guy that I had talked with from the ad. He is really great. He’s got a good job, likes my music (surprisingly, for a straight guy!), dresses well but not too well, is nice and short, takes me out to dinner at really nice, yummy places, is a complete and utter gentleman, is fun to be around, is caring, and really nice to strangers, going above the call … Read entire article »

I originally wrote this in November… posted now… This has not been going so well… I ended up emailing the first guy after he emailed me the next day, and telling him we don’t click. Then the next 2 guys the dates got postponed… I finally went on one the day before yesterday. Another really nice guy who seems very cool and I liked talking to him online. But the day of the date, when he was going to take me to a nice dinner, I panicked. Did I feel like I wanted to date him? No. I was just having fun chatting with him like I would any of my friends. I liked him enough that I couldn’t let him buy me dinner, and … Read entire article »